As women, we are pulled in all these different directions trying to be everything for everyone. While starting a business or investing in a project at work are absolutely worthy of your time and respect, it’s vitally important to keep your cup full so you can show up as the best version of you & serve in the capacity you need to. I think a lot of times when things (in work or life in general) start cranking up, self-care items can fall to the bottom of our to-do list because they don’t seem as productive or worthy of our precious time. We want to race towards the finish line and reach our business goals as quick as humanly possible. Then and ONLY then will we gift ourselves some much needed “me” time because only then will we deserve it.
But I call bullshit. That’s a belief we’ve taken on somewhere along the way, and it simply isn’t serving us. Self-care is not a luxury; it’s an absolute necessity on the road to building your empire. It doesn’t have to look like a two-week vacation to Costa Rica (although that sounds nice, plan that too!). Your life is made up of the little moments. The daily routines & checklists. What might be even more powerful and refreshing than the long vacay is fitting in little self-care moments, or “Mindful Moments” as I like to call them. One minute of long, deep breathing to re-center. Fifteen minutes of walking outside before lunch. Ten minutes of sitting in a guided meditation to bring you back to the present. When these little “mindful moments” become habit, every day will feel like a vacation (assuming you love the work you do, and if you don’t, that’s a topic for a different day!). It’s not rushing and hustlin’ and spreading yourself so thin that by the time you get a breather you’re ready to cry, collapse, down a whole bottle of wine, or all three. You must create that space for yourself every single day. And that requires a massive shift in your mindset before anything in your external world will begin to change in a significant way. You must believe deep down that you matter and are worthy of joy & support.
Here are some reflective questions to ask yourself as you begin digging into this:
- Do I tend to put everyone else before myself?
- On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being overflowing & 1 being drained/empty), how full is my cup?
- When was the last time I did something just for me? (Not for my kids/family/spouse/coworker, but just for me).
- How do I fill time gaps? What are my tendencies?
- How would I feel if I committed to & practiced taking better care of myself?
Take some time with these questions. Be honest with yourself. Even just taking 10 minutes to journal on these questions is an act of self-care.
You owe it to yourself. You deserve to feel good. You matter. Now believe it!
Lots of Love,